Just a disclaimer this is just how i view these things and what i have learned, this is not meant to offend anyone and if i mistype or you have further info feel free to leave it in the comments below!
This is going to be a little bit about how i describe myself as a demisexual, i will also touch on a bit about how i identify as pansexual as well.
So if you don’t know what demisexuality is here is the definition for you “Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals feel sexual attraction rarely compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity.” And well we are giving definitions here is the definition for pansexual “not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity.”
For me i feel like i identify not only with being demisexual but being pansexual as well. I kind of started realizing this in middle school when everyone was just starting to talk about wanting to have sex with people or being sexually attracted to someone. Where as for me i just never really had a sexual attraction towards anyone. I didn’t actually feel any sexual attraction to anyone really until sophomore year and then again after i had graduated. But for me i honestly don’t care about “sex” yes it can be fun and pleasurable but i find all the other stuff way more fun i guess you could say. Now i also identify with being pansexual as well where i am more attracted to the person themselves then what the identify as. I find the persons personality more attractive then what’s in there “pants” more or less. That doesn’t mean i don’t find people attractive and aesthetically pleasing, trust me i do.
Now the hard thing about this is that i have noticed that a lot of people in this generation are more inclined to not date a friend because they don’t want to ruin the friendship. But to me i would much rather date someone i know well then go through that weird stage of getting to know each other while dating. I don’t know i might just be weird on that one lol.
Again if you have anything to add leave it in the comments!